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In very simple terms, your self-esteem is your overall sense of yourself as a person i.e. self-value. It is basically your own opinion about yourself and covers a vast range of issues- your sense of identity, self-confidence, feelings of worth, competence and belonging. Self-esteem plays an extremely crucial role in many areas of life e.g. achievement, task completion, success etc., which is why having a poor self-esteem can be a serious psychological problem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-esteem is not only liking yourself in general; rather it also implies a belief that you deserve love, respect and attention and valuing your own thoughts, feelings, opinions, interests, and goals. Self-esteem not only affects how you feel about and treat yourself, it can also affect how you let others treat you. It impacts the levels of your motivation to chase the goals you want to achieve in life and your ability to develop healthy and\u00a0 supportive relationships<\/a><\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is low self-esteem?<\/b><\/h2>\n

People with healthy self-esteem tend to think positively about themselves and life in general. Such people know they are valuable and can name at least some positive qualities they have like \u201cI am a good co-worker\u201d, \u201cI am compassionate\u201d, \u201cI am honest\u201d, or \u201cI am good as a parent\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the contrary, people with poor self-esteem see themselvjes, the world and the future negatively and critically. They may be anxious, sad, low or unmotivated and upon encountering challenges, they doubt their ability to handle them. They may indulge in harsh self-talk: \u201cI am stupid\u201d, \u201cI\u2019ll never manage it\u201d, or \u201cI\u2019m crap\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

A person suffering from low self-esteem may try to please others or go the extra mile to please friends and family. So long as they meet these standards, they feel OK, but there will be times when it\u2019s not possible to do so, and it can leave them feeling low and anxious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-esteem can be thought of as existing on a spectrum. Some such people find that it only affects them with certain people or in certain situations. On the other hand, other people may find that their self-esteem may be much more global and colors everything that they do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Diagnosis of Low self-esteem<\/b><\/h2>\n

Low self-esteem should be diagnosed by a qualified mental health professional. However, answering these questions can give you a good idea of whether you need to have a professional assessment for a proper diagnosis.<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. I feel I\u2019m worthy, at least as much as others are.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    \u2003Strong agreement \u00a0 \u2003Agreement\u00a0 \u2003Disagreement\u2003Strong disagreement<\/b><\/p>\n

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    1. Overall, I am satisfied with myself.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      \u2003Strong agreement \u00a0 \u2003Agreement\u00a0 \u2003Disagreement\u2003Strong disagreement<\/b><\/p>\n

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      1. I have never felt useless or worthless.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Strong agreement \u00a0 \u2003Agreement\u00a0 \u2003Disagreement\u2003Strong disagreement<\/b><\/p>\n

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        1. tend to give myself kind encouragement if things go wrong.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          \u2003Strong agreement \u00a0 \u2003Agreement\u00a0 \u2003Disagreement\u2003Strong disagreement<\/b><\/p>\n

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          1. I have many good qualities.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            \u2003Strong agreement \u00a0 \u2003Agreement\u00a0 \u2003Disagreement\u2003Strong disagreement<\/b><\/p>\n

            \u00a0<\/span>They can\u2019t provide a definitive diagnosis, but if you have selected \u2018Strong disagreement\u2019 for many of these questions, you may be having problems with low self-esteem. You may speak to a qualified mental health professional<\/a><\/strong> about it in order to get relevant help.<\/span><\/p>\n

            Low Self-Esteem- Signs and symptoms<\/b><\/h2>\n

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            Poor self-esteem affects thoughts, emotions, and patterns of behavior. Many a time, its signs may be apparent, but in some cases, they can be much more subtle and harder to detect. Some low self-esteem people talk negatively about themselves, while others go the extra mile to please others in life. In either case, the lack of personal worth can negatively impact a person’s life and wellness.<\/span><\/p>\n

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              Negative Social Comparisons<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              Social comparisons can work positively by enhancing a person’s sense of self and by motivating others towards greater, higher action. But such comparisons can also damage self-esteem. People with low self-esteem are more likely to do upward social comparison, or making comparisons with people who they think are better than them.<\/span><\/p>\n

              In fact, upward social comparison isn’t bad <\/span>per se<\/span><\/i>. In fact, these comparisons may provide information and inspiration for improvement but if people are left with feelings of inadequacy or hopelessness, it can inhibit self-esteem. Comparisons need to be made very tactfully and carefully so as to counter their possible negative consequences. In fact, it needs to be evaluated how the listener takes to such caparisons and how the said comparison is made.<\/span><\/p>\n

              The ubiquitous impact of social media may worsen the problems related to such comparisons. People who often compare themselves unfavorably to others on social media like Facebook and Instagram may experience a hit to their self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                Low Confidence<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                People having low self-confidence have poor self-esteem. Having self-confidence and confidence in your abilities allows you to know that you can handle different situations. This self-belief makes you feel comfortable and confident while you navigate the different things in life, which plays an important role in success\u00a0 and your overall well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n

                Low self-esteem contributes to a lack of confidence, but poor confidence can also cause or worsen low self-esteem. Therefore, finding ways to gain self-confidence and confidence in your abilities can help. Trying to practice and acquire new skills can boost your confidence and self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                  Feelings of lack of Control and Helplessness<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  Low-esteem people often have a feeling of having little control over their life or what happens to them. It may be attributed to their feeling that they have little ability to changes themselves or the world. With this external locus of control, they may feel powerless to do anything to solve the problems they are facing.<\/span><\/p>\n

                  In situations where people have little control over what happens, higher self-esteem can help relieve some negative effects of this lack of control, which ultimately benefits their mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n

                  So, for someone struggling with a feeling of having no control over life or situation, finding ways to improve self-esteem may help their well-being.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                    Problems Asking for What You Need<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    A person with low self-esteem may have difficulty in asking for what they need. Because of their low self-esteem, they feel they don’t deserve help and in fact, may feel embarrassed or incompetent by expressing their need for help and support. Since they don’t prioritize their desires, they feel problems with asserting themselves while they are in need.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                      Trouble Accepting Positive Feedback<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      A 2017 study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology says that people suffering from low self-esteem<\/a><\/strong> cannot accept or capitalize on others\u2019 praise, approval or compliments. Due to the lack of\u00a0 a positive self-opinion, such people have difficulties with accept compliments from others.<\/span><\/p>\n

                      Interestingly, such positive feedback is often greeted with suspicion and distrust by them as these words do not align with their self-beliefs. Therefore, the low self-esteem people may feel that the other person is actually being flippant or even deceitful or cruel.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                        Worry and Self-Doubt<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                        Such people often worry about having made a wrong choice. They doubt their own opinions and may often defer to others\u2019 opinions instead of following their own choices. It can often cause much second-guessing and self-doubting, which makes it even harder for them to make important life decisions.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                          Fear of Failure<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          Due to the lack of self-confidence, such people doubt their own ability to achieve success. They fear failure and either avoid challenges or give up quickly without trying hard.<\/span><\/p>\n

                          Such fear of failure is seen in acting out when things go wrong, looking for ways to hide feelings of inadequacy, excuses, blaming external factors and trying to downplay the importance of the task.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                            Poor Outlook<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                            Low self-esteem makes such people hapless in that there is little chance of future being any better. This hopelessness can make it hard for them to bring about positive changes in their lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

                            Self-harm is also a common technique of coping with such feelings. By finding obstacles to prevent success, low self-esteem lets them find something else to blame for their shortcomings.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                              Negative Self-Talk<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                              \"Self-Esteem\"Low self-esteem people often focus on their flaws rather than strengths. They always have something negative to say about themselves, blame themselves for things gone wrong and always find some fault with their appearance, personality or abilities.<\/span><\/p>\n

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                                Trying to Please Others<\/b><\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                Pleasing others is another common symptom of low self-esteem. Such people may go above and beyond to ensure others\u2019 comfort and happiness and gain external validation. In the process, they neglect their own needs and say yes to things they may not want to do, and feel guilty about saying no.<\/span><\/p>\n

                                Impact of Low Self-Esteem<\/b><\/h2>\n

                                Low self-esteem is linked to many mental health problems like:<\/span><\/p>\n